Table of Contents/No. 104. Fall 1999

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Conflict & Connection

Conflict & Connection

Diana Leafe Christian  From the Editor.

Living "Naka-Ima" at Lost Valley

Larry Kaplowitz  After a devastating membership upheaval and "tension so thick you could choke on it," Lost Valley was transformed by a deep-immersion emotional healing process.

• One Naka-Ima Technique
• Assessing Community Well-Being

Common Sources of Conflict in Community

Helen Stevenson  Differing expectations about common issues seem to be the culprit. Helen Stevenson takes a look.

Opposing Leadership

Iris Tocher and Joan Valles  Is it always the leaders' fault? Or are members sometimes passive aggressive? Iris Tocher and Joan Valles examine the Goodenough Community.

A Healing Impulse: Moving Toward an Open-Hearted Community

Robert Foote  Seven years ago two eight-year-old girls at Light Morning were sexually molested by a community member. Robert Foote recounts how the community recently offered a powerful healing process for everyone involved at the time--including the man who committed the offense.

• About Open Hearted Listening

The Tao of Speaking and Listening

Scott Shuker  Members of the spiritually based Lama Foundation cultivate techniques for conscious communication.

How It Is to Be "Forgotten," and to Forgive

Robert Rhodes  Schisms occur, even in Hutterite colonies--200 years ago as well as today. Robert Rhodes describes the current disputes facing these devout Christian communards.

FEATURE

Support and Challenge at Oakshade

Bill Moffett  How do you prefer--and prefer not--to receive critical feedback? Oakshade members not only let each other know, they act it out.

• Role-Playing

Working with Difficult Behaviors in Meetings

Rob Sandelin  The whole community can help people with disruptive meeting behaviors become effective team players, says experienced facilitator Rob Sandelin.

Nonviolent Communication: Transforming Conflict and Enhancing Connection

Miki Kashtan  Using slightly different language can help descalate conflict on the spot. Miki Kashtan explores the Nonviolent Communication process in community.

• How the Nonviolent Communication Model Works
• NVC in Community

COLUMNS

FELLOWSHIP NEWS - Creating More Community in Our Lives

Tree Bressen

MY TURN - Community Lost

Devan Malone

FEDERATION UPDATE - Of Course we Have Conflict (Here's How We Handle It)

Avievah Bezilla

ECOVILLAGE JOURNAL - Learning From Ecovillages Worldwide

Malcolm Hollick and Christine Connelly

PERIPATETIC COMMUNITARIAN - "I Don't Want to Talk About It"

Geoph Kozeny

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